And again, with commentary.
His opening salvo is based on this bit of my profile “I cook good vegan food (am east Asian so I know at least 10 different types of tofu and know how to incorporate it into all sorts of dishes!), and if you ar vegan I’m happy to be vegan when I’m with you, but I’m afraid I can’t give up meat or I risk malnutrition”.
This paragraph in my okcupid profile was put there because over half of the demographic of people I would like to date (intersectional human rights advocates/activists/supporters) are vegetarian/ vegan. Unless they were also militant animal rights people… I sort of don’t want to turn them off because my pool is small enough as it is.
Anyway… opening salvo. Comment 1. I didn’t say I need meat, merely that I risk malnutrition, therefore jumping to conclusions [-2]. He goes on to query my medical state, which I point out in my reply – is rather intrusive for a first contact question [-6].
I try to reassure him, and placate him.
His next salvo labels my attempt at placating him as a trigger point and attempts to paint a story of me without any data. Again, jumping to conclusions [-8]. Talks about me giving him my tofu powers. Hmm.. that’s an assumption that I want to give him anything at this point. He says “I don’t mind waiting”(for the mystical third date), which belies an assumption that we will even get to third date. [-8]
I wanted to see where he would go next with his wildly jumping conclusions, so I placated him and gave me my true explanation, but without giving a huge amount of detail. I also said I will not be changing my diet, and if that is not okay with him, then I am okay with that.
His next salvo talks about how great he has been on veganism and water fasting. He also says “I think you’d survive without meat”. This could have been a general ‘you’ as in ‘one’ or ‘the human species’. But in this context, I took it to mean that he thinks I can survive without meat, and I pointed out to him that he’s getting dangerously close to my threshold for blocking people. At this point this is a no on top of more nos, so this will add another -5 to his score.
I even tried to explain his lack of data scientifically.
Hmm another salvo. “I can tell it’s a trigger for you” [-12] Well, I can tell you are a massive dickhead, but I will let you dig your hole a bit deeper before I block because I like using okcupid conversations to make amusing blogs.
Announcement for schizophrenia, bi-polar, and BPD, with indication that he is unmedicated, and no indication on whether he is under medical advice. BIG red flag. Instant [-20]. Cannot spell carcinogenic [-2]. Does not know the meaning of deal breaker [-5]. Attempts to claim that he hasn’t offered any scientific advice. [-2]. Next salvo until the point at which I blocked him [-50].
Total score -115. This is quite an accomplishment. “Highest” score since I started scoring!! (only started today rofl).
I’m pretty sure no one is going to read this.. But writing this amuses and de-stresses me, so yay! 😀